Sometimes people have this mindset, you hurt me, i return you twice of the hurt.You throw a punch and I'll return an even harder one. an eye for an eye. this is something my bf tells me constantly.
But love is not supposed to be a battle. If you are treated unfairly (or without respect) in a relationship, then your partner is not the one for you. You can't fix it by getting back at someone. An eye for an eye truly only leads to more blindness. You don't see that you're actually much better off being single, or with someone else.
Here is some checklist to see if you should keep ur guy:
1) Don't Be With Someone Who Won't Let You Be Yourself
2) You Need To Be A Priority
3) You Can't Be With Someone Who Doesn't Think Much Of You
- although there are times Bf quarrel with me bcoz I wore sometink sexy when Im nt with him, he always make compromises with me. on the whole, I can be myself with him.
- i mite not be the top priority in his list, bcoz there is work and family.and im happy that he is not wasting his life away without any goals. to speak the least, he puts aside his time for me pretty well managed.
- no matter wat, times I feel that he doesnt care hw i feel, and never puts himself in my shoe, the end of the day, we always work out a compromise, and he is trying to be more senstive now.
Now, I would only be in (and stay in) a relationship if it made me a happier person than when I was single. If it made me a less happy person, I'd naturally pull out of that relationship.
Point is, never settle for some1 who isnt right.
I hope my gfs, and all you gals out there who read this can ponder over these. you can only be happier if you want to.nobody can hurt you, unless you allow them to.
1 comment:
i truly agreed with you,revenge isnt a way to solve everything. So what if you can make the person suffer badly? I understand that at times we cant accept the reality that he/she hurt u, make u such a foolish person,hatred, humiliation and lose pride but we need to think that everything happened for a reason.We are not alone, many ppl being ignored, picked on, overlooked, lied to, betrayed, injured, cheated, trespassed upon, and stolen from. We may have lost our jobs, lost our houses, suffered from disease, lost substantial sums of money, divorced, or been permanently injured. Many of us have been victims of greater injuries such as rape, assault, abuse, death of a spouse or close family member, or violent crime. “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth and the whole world would soon be blind and toothless.” Tell him we need to live well, we cant change the past but we can get a better life.Always think of the consequence before taking action ... Well.. as for you we always said fall in love..We fall and it not purposely in love. we may be always telling ourself why we make ourself so unhappy by stayin with this guy..i shud leave him! and is not tat i cant get a better guy! well well... sometimes love is just so blind..at times you wish you have never know him or you may think u r so lucky to met him.. Good Luck babe !
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